I have often asked myself why we close our eyes and pretend we don’t see what’s going on “within four walls”.
And with these questions a lot of answers-but also more questions-have come to mind.
I know what it’s like when you want someone to see, but all they do is ignore it. It is like their eyes say you are lying and then they keep on with their ignorance. I myself have worked a lot with this in my work of forgiveness. I have forgiven, because I see their huge fear of interfering. Fear of the consequences it will create.
The next question that comes to mind is: why do we treat the people we love in an abusive way?
Before I give my thoughts about this, I want to look at the meaning of abuse. The word in itself is an abbreviation of two words; abnormal and use. This way it is easy to recognize how you treat others. For example, yelling and screaming to someone is abnormal use of the voice, and therefore an abusive behavior.
There are two kinds of abuse: physical abuse and psychological/mental abuse. Physical abuse is related to any physical damage like: beating or restraining, sexual, financial, alcohol or drug abuse. Psychological/mental abuse is related to any psychological/mental damage like: surveillance, ignorance and neglect, verbal, manipulation, insult and humiliation as well as passive–aggressive behavior.
So back to the question of why we treat our “loved ones” in an abusive way. We feel more secure around those we know, and it is as if we are allowed to let our feelings out behind the “safety of the four walls”. Since we haven’t learned how to deal with emotions in a balanced way, the unresolved emotions build up and result in explosions towards our nearest and dearest. The intention might not be to harm anyone, but unfortunately it is the tragic result.
To avoid emotional explosions, we need to understand and learn to deal with our emotions, so they don’t keep building up. We can make changes in the way we feel, and when our brain is in balance we are able to react in a balanced way between emotions and reason. This also gives improved understanding of values, and an improved ability to understand the difference between right and wrong.
This is one of the reasons why I spend my entire life showing people that we all can achieve a peaceful daily life. Peace in each individual leads to peaceful families and furthermore a peaceful world.
We might think that we don’t abuse others or have an abusive behavior. Being aware of the two words in abuse: abnormal and use, regarding the way we are treating others, is a first step. In addition we must be willing to change, so that we can develop away from abuse.
Article Author: Deborah Borgen is a pioneer in consciousness training and the founder and CEO of www.uniquemind.org. She is an international speaker and author of Magical Moments: Discover How to Easily Create More in Your Daily Life, a step-by step manual to gain inner peace so that world peace can be achieved. Her near-death experiences revealed to her the code for unlimited powers of the mind. Magical Moments is based on Deborah’s course that creates a paradigm shift in human evolution. Her course has been documented by research. An article in a scientific journal is currently underway that reveals a great leap within mind development.
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